The Other Woman’s Port in a (Post-)Storm

Hello Everyone!!!

I’ll be down for a bit because of Hurricane Sandy. Stuck without power. I’m sitting in the library now, charging all my stuff, but would you believe the library has no Internet???? Thank goodness I got a “rocket” so I can connect while traveling! I’m the only one here on line. People hate me! LOL!

My guy is working 7 days a week, 12 hour shifts, so our contact is limited to phone during commutes. Good thing I have my Kindle Fire to occupy the time at night. Charging it now for later, so life is good.

I hope everyone is safe and warm. Will post soon!

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8 thoughts on “The Other Woman’s Port in a (Post-)Storm

  1. I just wanted to say thanks. I’d been searching on the web for something, anything that proved to me that I’m not the only girl out there in this situation and I stumbled upon your blog. In my case the guy I’m seeing is not yet married , he is my ex and we’ve been on off for about 5 years now, I’ve been his fiancee once and his mistress twice and he is about to marry another girl. Add the fact that his fiancee is from a different country (same as me) which is why sneaking around isn’t a big deal. Whenever she visits I’m not there and vice versa and when she comes to my country shell obviously never find out. All in all reading some of your posts have put me at ease cause I found myself rather confused at the fact that I wasn’t bothered by my situation. All in all thanks for in your own way showing all us “home wreckers that we aren’t alone”.

    • You’re welcome. I started this blog because I knew there had to be others in my situation with no one to talk to about it.

    • Actually, he’s on emergency duty, but he stops by every morning with my latte and every night we spend at least a few minutes together when he gets out of work. It’s a busy time for me too since without power for a week, I have some major fridge/freezer cleanup to do! Taking the night off to play volleyball, so my guy will meet a few friends and I for dinner afterwards.

      We talk on the phone during his breaks and commutes. Seriously, it’s not all about sex, it’s about an emotional bond. That’s what you don’t seem to get.

      So….No….no sinking ship here. Sorry to disappoint you! ;-)

  2. Just wanted to say THANK YOU for posting this blog. My man is married with three kids, one of whom has down syndrome. Leaving, for him, is not an option – those girls are his world. We work in the same office (along with 5,000 other people) so we are able to meet for lunches and such a couple times a week. Just last night, he had to run to the grocery and stopped on his way home just to give me a kiss goodnight. I accept that our relationship is what it is, and I know that there is a chance that it will never be more. But knowing that there is someone out there posting like you are helps me to know that I am not alone. Thank you, truly. :) You are an angel.

    • You’re very welcome! It’s always nice to hear that somehow, I can maybe help someone through a rough patch or just let them know that they aren’t alone.

  3. I wrote in before on another post about my guy going on holidays with his family.
    I actually didn’t freak out like I thought I would. I didn’t expect to hear from him at all, but he did send me messages telling me he was thinking of me and how he wished I was with him.
    When he came back he took her back to their city then flew straight over to mine and spent a couple of days with me before he had to go to work.

    He has just spent the week here and while the first few days were absolutely perfect, I picked a fight with him out of frustration of the situation and we didn’t talk for at least a day. I ended it and was absolutely devastated. I wasn’t this upset when I ended my relationship of 9 years.
    I was floored at how much I really cared about him.
    He just turned up at my house after work the next day looking miserable. He came in and we just hugged for the longest time. He kept telling me how sorry he was and he didn’t want to lose me.
    He cooked me a beautiful dinner and we just spent the last two days building the relationship up again.
    He has gone off to work again but has asked to finish a few days early as I am going away for a month overseas so he wants to see me before I go away.
    Last night was just so fun, we were on the couch, cuddling and having a bit of a laugh and when we went to bed…. it was just what I needed. He didn’t let go of me all night.

    I’ve tried dating other guys, he doesn’t get upset cause I tell him everything and he doesn’t expect me to not see anyone else, but it’s not the same. I’ve tried to keep an open mind, but it doesn’t feel right. He isn’t sleeping with anyone else, not even his partner, so why should I have the exception?

    • Hi, Amanda!

      Sorry it’s taken me so long to respond…it’s been one of those months!

      I’ve tried to break it off with my guy many times for the first few years. I gave up. For whatever reason, I feel that we are meant to be together. The only thing we can do, as OW, is just accept things for what they are. I know my man loves me, and I love him. I don’t hold out hope that he will leave his wife…he has too much to lose, financially. Will I ever get tired of it? Maybe. But, for now, I’m enjoying what we have and the things we share.

      As for dating…I’ve gone out with a few other guys, but (in my mind, at least) it was as friends. I’ve had fun, but there isn’t a connection like I have with my MM. We’re totally in sync in many ways, which is something I never had with anyone else. I just keep an open mind about things. That’s all I can do.

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