I have received my first negative comment on this blog! Unfortunately, it was from someone who really never read through my posts. Rather than just send a reply, I thought I’d share. Here is the comment:
Right now, I’m raising my arms above my head, trying to pull my brain back into my body. Are you fucking serious? You wasted 9 years as the OW? Just mind blowing.
I’m not the OW (just take a guess at my role), though I do know her. She’s an imbecile. If that’s what men really want, go at it. Us smarter, more evolved women will be standing here on the hill laughing our asses off on the way to divorce court. And also laughing our asses off knowing that you’re only a piece of ass not even worthy of public recognition.
Let’s pick this apart, shall we? First of all, I do believe I have a post up that’s titled “Wasting Time?”. I’ll go over this again. How can it be considered wasting time when I’m living my life? I’m not sitting around just waiting for my man to come here, and when he IS here, we certainly aren’t hiding. We go out at least twice a week, but usually more. We go out with friends, we visit family (both his and mine), he helps me with the yard work, he’s currently helping me with some home renovations, we go shopping, we cook together, we watch movies, we laugh and we fight. In other words, we have a REAL relationship.
Going by the second paragraph, I’m guessing that this comment is from a woman who has a cheating husband. Well, I’m sorry about that. Maybe she could benefit from my posts about how a wife could save her marriage by paying some attention to her husband. My relationship started off as a friendship. We spent hours talking. We still spend hours talking. Contrary to your belief, there are men out there who are cheating on their wives not for the sex, but for the emotional connection and the conversation. The sex is a perk.
I think it’s sad that this person feels that her trip to divorce court is a laughing matter. Obviously, the marriage wasn’t worth that much to begin with if divorce was the only option she could think of. It makes me wonder if she did anything to try to save her marriage. Honestly, I’ve never been in that situation, but I would think that if the marriage was important, the one being cheated on (whether it’s the man or woman) would talk to their spouse and ask “Why?”. She calls the other woman an “imbecile” and refers to the wives of cheaters as being more evolved. I would think that a more evolved woman would try to understand why her husband found the need to cheat. Maybe there’s a chance to turn things around.
Don’t waste time on bitterness. You chose the easy way out (divorce) rather than do the work it would take to save the marriage. Your loss. I just hope that if there are children involved, you decide to take the high road and not bad-mouth their father and (if he’s still with his mistress), his new girlfriend. Don’t transfer your bitterness to your kids. No matter what happened with you, the kids love their dad. Let them have a relationship with him.
In closing, I’d like to say one more thing. It’s now MY turn to laugh my ass off! I’m nothing but a piece of ass????? I think I’ve gotten the point across that I’m NOT just a piece of ass, but, at my age, I’m happy that someone would THINK I’m a piece of ass!!! So….thank you!