Lately, I’ve been feeling like I need a change. A new hair color or cut won’t do it…I mean a REAL change. Maybe it’s just winter talking, but I’m miserable now that it’s cold out.
Every now and then, I go through periods where I feel like I need to move down to my Florida condo permanently, but once I focus on the “no four-legged pets” by-law, I change my mind. When I had one quiet dog, I could hide him for a week when I went to visit. I’d throw him in a backpack and even if I ran into someone in the elevator, they never knew he was there. I’d take him out of the pack a block away from the building for our walk, then put him back in the pack just before we got back to the building. It was nice and easy. Now that I have two dogs, unless they change that by-law, I’m screwed. OK…so it’s not just the dogs; I also have 4 bunnies and I’m not giving up any rabbits’ feet. The only “legal” pet I have is a ball python, but would I piss off the condo gods when it was time for his “dinner party”? All I need is for one of the old fogies to see me coming home with 5 white mice.
Anyway…every time I thought of moving to Florida, I thought Lauderdale condo. Something changed on this last vacation: I realized that if I sold my house in NJ, I could actually buy a condo in Key West! This little epiphany hit me as my friends and I were walking down a side street in Key West and I saw a house with a “For Sale” sign in front. DUH! Yes…people LIVE there!!!!
Actually, I think this may be the only part of Florida that I would be absolutely at home in. I did my research. According to statistics, the hottest day on record in Key West was 97 degrees in 1880 and the coldest was 41 degrees in 1981. Considering where I am now, we’ve had some weeks where the temperature has been over 100 degrees or below 20 degrees. Hurricanes, you say? HA! For some reason, the keys aren’t really hard hit. Yes, there have been some, but I could always plan to be out of town when a big one is set to hit. I could deal.
My guy has been working long hours rebuilding the plant he works at after Hurricane Sandy destroyed much of it. There never seemed to be a good time to discuss my “possible moving situation” with him, but I made the time the beginning of January (new year, new plans). He knows I’ve been miserable here for quite a while (none of it having to do with him) and that I would be selling my house in the near future to get out from where I am. The thing is, he always thought that I would be moving closer to where he lives, which is in the sticks.
January 4, I sat him down to tell him that I will NOT be moving to the middle of nowhere alone. I told him that the only way I would consider moving closer to where he lives would be if he moved in with me. If he couldn’t figure out a way to make that happen, then I would be looking in Key West unless he could find me a nice little house in a small town that I fell in love with.
He knows that this is going to take some time, but he also knows that I plan on going to Florida this year to spend Christmas and New Year’s Eve in Key West with some friends. At that time, I’ll be looking at some properties that I will have picked out from online sources.
I don’t know if he would be able to make a move out of state with me right now because of his job. I can’t ask him to leave a job with a good pension to follow my dream. But, he also knows that I’m serious. I didn’t give him an ultimatum; even if I move, we can try a long distance relationship, but he will have to make an effort to come down to see me every now and then. I’ll still have one son in NJ, so I’m sure that I’ll be back every now and then, too.
During the year, we’ll be having these little talks about my move because he tends to think that if he ignores the issue, it will go away. He needs to be prepared for when it actually happens. Right now, I feel that there are more opportunities, job-wise, down there for me. If I can swing it, I’m ready to go.
So…we’ll see where this year takes me. Right now, things will stay the same with me and my MM, but he has some thinking to do. I’m not going to push; he has to figure things out on his own. If he thinks a long distance relationship will work, that’s fine by me. I could be perfectly happy in a new place. Besides, I’m sure that by living in a paradise like Key West, I’ll have plenty of visitors!!!