As the OW, holiday times are tough, especially if your MM is still living with his wife or girlfriend because there are kids involved. This is when we have to be “creative”. Quite a few years ago, I started a “Festivus Tradition”. Now, not being a Seinfeld fan, my guy thought I was out of my mind! I explained it, then made him watch the episode where George and his family celebrate “Festivus for the rest of us”. This is now OUR holiday.
Since yesterday was Festivus Eve, I planned a nice dinner of filet mignon, lobster tails, roasted potatoes, sauteed onions and salad. After work, he stopped at the liquor store to surprise me with a new beer (I love anything with a weird name), then he was here helping me with the dinner prep. We had a massive beef tenderloin…seriously massive at 25 lbs….so after he cracked open a couple of beers, he cut it up into individual portions, while I wrapped the filets we weren’t eating for the freezer.
The potatoes were roasting, the onions were sauteing, butter was being melted, the salad was made and the lobster tails were out of the shells and about to be broiled. Life was good!!! Dinner was better!!! OMG!!! SO good!!! We are carnivores, so our steaks were a bloody rare, the lobster was perfectly cooked (he did that part)…everything was great! All through the preparations, dinner and clean up we talked and laughed and had a grand old time.
Because my guy has been working a lot of overtime, we don’t really have much time to do what we normally do on Saturday nights; watch movies. So, after dinner, we snuggled up to a very “mature” viewing of Mr. Popper’s Penguins! This is one of the reasons why I love this man; we can watch a “kid” movie and he won’t complain. This is a good thing since I’m a big fan of Pixar!
We don’t exchange gifts…we don’t need to. We do enough for each other throughout the year, so we decided that gifts are unnecessary. Our Festivus celebration consists of us just enjoying each other’s company and having fun. We light the Festivus tree (I don’t have a Festivus pole), which is made up of pink feathers decorated with purple lights and balls and then just hang out.
This may sound boring to some, but this is how we like it. We got to spend a good amount of quality time together, which is rare lately because of his OT schedule, and quality time is always good.
On Christmas Eve, we have been invited to my guy’s aunt’s house. His daughter is in a Christmas pageant at church, so he will go there, then stop at his aunt’s before he has to pick up his mother-in-law. My one “nag” of the night was that he should bring his daughter with him. The girl has been poisoned against his family for far too long and she should at least meet them, if not get to know them.
This is the thing that bugs me about him: he has let his wife poison their daughter to anyone on HIS side of the family. He needs to end this. His aunt is 88 years old and the last time she has seen his daughter was around 11 years ago. He said he would try to talk her into going. TRY??? No…he needs to tell her that in life, we all need to do things we maybe don’t want to do and to spend 15 minutes with his family won’t kill her. The problem is, if his wife knows he’s planning on bringing their daughter, she will not allow it.
But…enough of the venting. The Festivus celebration was terrific and we will continue celebrating with his family either with or without his daughter tomorrow night on Christmas Eve.
I know it’s a tough time of year for all other women (and their men), but we will all get through it! Try to enjoy every minute you have together. Make your own traditions for this holiday season and for every other holiday throughout the year! Happy holidays, everyone!!! Cheers!!!!