Sugar or Equal to Help With That Bitterness?

I have received my first negative comment on this blog! Unfortunately, it was from someone who really never read through my posts. Rather than just send a reply, I thought I’d share. Here is the comment:

Right now, I’m raising my arms above my head, trying to pull my brain back into my body. Are you fucking serious? You wasted 9 years as the OW? Just mind blowing.

I’m not the OW (just take a guess at my role), though I do know her. She’s an imbecile. If that’s what men really want, go at it. Us smarter, more evolved women will be standing here on the hill laughing our asses off on the way to divorce court. And also laughing our asses off knowing that you’re only a piece of ass not even worthy of public recognition.

Let’s pick this apart, shall we? First of all, I do believe I have a post up that’s titled “Wasting Time?”. I’ll go over this again. How can it be considered wasting time when I’m living my life? I’m not sitting around just waiting for my man to come here, and when he IS here, we certainly aren’t hiding. We go out at least twice a week, but usually more. We go out with friends, we visit family (both his and mine), he helps me with the yard work, he’s currently helping me with some home renovations, we go shopping, we cook together, we watch movies, we laugh and we fight.   In other words, we have a REAL relationship.

Going by the second paragraph, I’m guessing that this comment is from a woman who has a cheating husband.  Well, I’m sorry about that.  Maybe she could benefit from my posts about how a wife could save her marriage by paying some attention to her husband.   My relationship started off as a friendship.  We spent hours talking.  We still spend hours talking.  Contrary to your belief, there are men out there who are cheating on their wives not for the sex, but for the emotional connection and the conversation.  The sex is a perk.

I think it’s sad that this person feels that her trip to divorce court is a laughing matter.  Obviously, the marriage wasn’t worth that much to begin with if divorce  was the only option she could think of.   It makes me wonder if she did anything to try to save her marriage.   Honestly, I’ve never been in that situation, but I would think that if the marriage was important, the one being cheated on (whether it’s the man or woman) would talk to their spouse and ask “Why?”.   She calls the other woman an “imbecile” and refers to the wives of cheaters as being more evolved.  I would think that a more evolved woman would  try to understand why her husband found the need to cheat.   Maybe there’s a chance to turn things around.

Don’t waste time on bitterness.   You chose the easy way out (divorce) rather than do the work it would take to save the marriage.  Your loss.  I just hope that if there are children involved, you decide to take the high road and not bad-mouth their father and (if he’s still with his mistress), his new girlfriend.   Don’t transfer your bitterness to your kids.  No matter what happened with you, the kids love their dad.  Let them have a relationship with him.

In closing, I’d like to say one more thing.  It’s now MY turn to laugh my ass off!  I’m nothing but a piece of ass?????  I think I’ve gotten the point across that I’m NOT just a piece of ass, but, at my age, I’m happy that someone would THINK  I’m a piece of ass!!!  So….thank you!

 

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24 thoughts on “Sugar or Equal to Help With That Bitterness?

  1. Wow. I was stuck in an unhappy marriage to a controlling, abusive man, THAT was wasting my life. I spent aother 10 years being afraid to date anyone, THAT was wasting my life. Finally I am in a relationship with a man who has an open marrige, so yeah I’m the other woman, but it is the best thing that ever happened to me. I am lying here beside him as he sleeps, trust me I am no “piece of ass” either. We spend just about every weekend together. A lot of the times doing mundane things….cooking, cleaning, dealing with children. He is everything my ex was not. I’ve never been happier. Granted our situation is different, his wife knows, we are actually friends and she is seeing someone also. But it works for everyone involved. Yeah…there are times that are rough, mostly because we live an hour apart and I miss him on the weekdays, but I am learning to deal with that. So…this woman with the negative comments should just worry about her own situation and not judge others.

    I love your blog…keep on writing!

    • First, let me say congratulations for changing your life in such a positive way! Getting away from an abusive relationship is never easy and I’m glad that you got out.

      I’m actually very surprised that the comment I wrote about in my last post was my first negative comment! Many people don’t understand why “the other woman” would want to “ruin a marriage”. Personally, I don’t believe us OW ruined anything…things were probably not right to begin with. I guess it’s always best to blame someone else for problems instead of looking at the REAL issues.

      Thank you for reading!

  2. Oh Man, I could have written this blog myself! Thank you so much for sharing, I no longer feel quite so alone. The parallels are just mind-blowing, the main difference being the length of time I have been the OW.

    I am currently at a point of “Blow this, I am going to free myself up for someone who can give me 100%”, knowing I don’t really mean it, having been through the “move in with me” stage. Maybe these two feelings will cycle for a while I don’t know. I can imagine reaching a point of acceptance (although there is a degree of acceptance there already) of what my man has to offer and I am sure your blog will help with that.

    As I read further and find comfort I am sure I will comment. Thanks once more for sharing.

    • Thanks for writing!

      I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been to the point of “screw this, I’m outta here!”. It’s only been the last few years that I’ve realized that I kind of like living alone. I get to do what I want, when I want and nobody to steal the covers (OK…so he’s around once in a while for a few days, but I can deal)! We have lots of time together and right now, I’m happy with that.

      So many people are quick to judge, but nobody knows what goes on in anyone else’s relationship. It really does take a while to get to the “it is what it is” point, but if you stick it out to get to that point, the rest is cake!

  3. I just discovered your blog today after an exhaustive search for a positive blog/site regarding the “OW.” Unlike you I am a “piece of ass” I do not have a problem being in this role either,nor does he. I have a live in boyfriend and among other things have been sexually dissatisfied (my boyfriend of 4 years is aware of this-the sex has gone from downhill to nonexistent, he attributes his ED due to diet but recently admitted its a mental thing, he’s 39 and I am 35).

    My married man and I used to work together, we took the time to get to know each other first prior to having any sexual relations. We text all day and even when we are together we can just talk, sometimes when we see each other sex isn’t involved we just enjoy spending time with one another. His wife is very insecure, when he is out with me (she doesn’t really know about me but has her suspicions) she will call his phone back to back as if she has an automatic dialer. She used to go through his phone and ask about every number she wasn’t familiar with. He cannot go anywhere without her wanting to tag along with the kids.

    If he is at work sometimes she will sit there for hours until its time for him to clock out. His main contention with her is sex-once she orgasms she falls asleep she has no endurance. I enjoy my relationship with my married man, I have no expectations of him leaving her for me-and although he talks about it, I tell him I am not interested in him doing such and that I like things as they are.

    My boyfriend told me as recently as yesterday that he read my Facebook messages because I “left it open” one day, which I know is a lie he really just went through my phone and picked out a couple messages I sent a few months ago to my cousin and a friend of mine (my married man does not have a FB account). I politely informed him that if the need arises to go through a person’s email and/or cell phone then the relationship is pretty much over and that he has unresolved issues that he needs to address. My boyfriend is aware that I had a sexual relationship with my married man over the course of this past summer while he and I were broken up. I informed him that he clearly cannot get past it due to him going through my phone and withholding sex. I told him I am pretty much at peace with us not having sex being that we have been non compatible since the beginning of this year and beyond and that I have other things to focus on. I do not understand why a person would remain in a relationship with a person they do not trust, his withholding of sex from me leaves me with no choice and encourages my behavior. My married man would not be in the picture if this was not the case as this is my first time cheating in my relationship.

    • I don’t know how you do it with your jealous boyfriend and HIS jealous wife! I can’t imagine my guy’s wife sitting and waiting for hours for him to get out of work. In fact, I have the opposite. We work together most weekends doing private parties or town events. My man’s wife has NEVER brought their daughter to any public event that we have worked. If she wanted to see him work, she could very easily call the office to find out exactly where the event was. Personally, I can’t imagine this since some of these events would be a lot of fun for her daughter.

      In my opinion, if there is no trust in a relationship, there really is no relationship. Some people have asked me how I can be so sure that what my man tells me about his sleeping arrangements (he sleeps on a couch in the den) and relationship with his wife is true. Well, after 9 years of being together, I know. When he leaves for work in the morning, he calls me and we talk during his entire commute. When he leaves work, he calls and we talk until he pulls into my driveway. We go out a few times a week, we’re together all day on Saturdays and there are the occasional “sleep overs”. He helps me with the housework (OK…I’m lazy, so he does most of it) and I love to cook so he always has leftovers for lunch.

      I just have to tell you that when I read your comment, my guy had just left and we were on the phone. When I got to the part about your married lover’s wife falling asleep after sex, I had to read it to him. That is a major joke with us. I always tell him that I’m such a “guy” because I do the same thing! I also fall asleep when we watch movies. Tonight, we put in a DVD and I don’t think I made it through the previews!!!! At least we can laugh about it.

      There are all types of relationships. If yours works for you and you’re happy with where it is, then go for it. You need to decide for yourself what you want. Think about it….can your relationship with your boyfriend be saved or is there no hope? If you get along as friends, maybe with everything out in the open and everything discussed, the two of you could continue as just roommates. Good luck!

  4. Ma’am you are just a piece of tail at this point. And at your age, you should be ashamed for not requiring more of this guy. The reason you are still with this man and allow him to treat you this way is because you have low self esteem. You care about this man deeply and think because he spends a few days a week with you he’s committed- but those no such thing as a 50% commitment- you are being used and he and his buddies are laughing at you even as I type this e-mail. I guarantee you if you put your foot down and say to this guy, leave your wife and be with me, he would NOT do that and you would be s.o.l. You’re probably saying “I don’t want him to leave his wife, I like it this way” but the truth is you’ve learned to tolerate it this way because that is all he will allow you. It’s embarrassing to be the Other Women- because no one respects you. People view you as the fool, the whore, the homewrecker and you think you’ve got the advantage. You’re probably thinking- “oh his poor wife”, but she’s the one with the house, the car, the kids, the life and his balls in a vice and you are a gardener who comes and visits you to rake the leaves twice a week? I am only 29 and I am sure there are a lot of things I don’t understand about marriage, but I do know statistically speaking men most often do NOT leave their wives for the other women- because they don’t have to. The other women is stupid enough to believe that this arrangement is ok and therefore stays engaged in it all the while the guy is living the dream. He tells you “my wife doesn’t understand me, my wife knows I don’t love her, my wife doesn’t sleep with me” all of these are lies- every day he goes home to his wife and tries to make up for cheating on her and you are home alone in bed deep down inside hoping that he’ll leave her to be with you. But you better hope that never happens- because then you’ll be his women while sound other lady talks about you- who happens to be his “other women’. With all due respect ma’am, grow up and stop stealing what doesn’t belong to you. Find someone who can be devoted to you- you really want that you just don’t think you can get it. Good luck

    • Obviously another person who felt the need to comment without reading my entire blog. Are you trying to use this forum as your Psych 101 project? My advice to you is this: don’t try to analyze someone you don’t know. You will always get it wrong.

  5. Hi Other Woman:

    I have been internalizing the discussion my bf and from this past weekend and honestly it has left me hurt. Ever since we reconciled a couple months ago things have not been the same and with him revealing that he still has trust issues and his snide comments (last night I simply did not feel well, he told me that I haven’t been feeling well alot lately and he noticed that started since the summer) that constantly refer to what happened between my MM and I. I went back into this reconciliation with an open mind and heart and even left the MM alone for 3 months into it only to get to where we are now with the nonsense stated in my previous post.

    I am about to go to truck driving school which means soon I will be on the road and gone from my household regularly; I could care less if the sexual relationship continues with the MM (even though the sex is awesome) as of late he exhibits unhealthy behaviors (he has a drinking problem and is one of those annoying yet stupid drunks) that debit any remaining strength I have left to care. As for the bf the mood in the house is sad as if everyone is avoiding the elephant in the room, yet when I expressed to him that I believe we reconciled too soon, he denies that-he contradicts anything I say about why we shouldn’t be together. I told him we are not sexually compatible he denies this and has been researching nutritional websites on men’s health but won’t look for a stable job. I just want it to be over at this point and this time I hope it remains amicable. I believe he is only staying for financial security because he knows I always try to “fix” things and he doesn’t want to live with his siblings because then they would be aware of what is going on in his personal life, I refused to be used and it is not my job to continue to provide for someone who isn’t trying to make their situation better. The only thing I am concerned about at this point are our dogs (kids) and am currently researching if I could take my oldest with me when I go.

    • Sounds to me like this truck driving school is the best thing to happen to you! Your boyfriend doesn’t trust you and your married lover drinks too much. Please, take this school and your new career as an opportunity to get away! With distance between you and your live-in boyfriend, maybe he’ll have time to think things through and could learn to trust you again. I think it’s good that he’s at leas making an effort to look for solutions to his “little” problem….it means he cares.

      You never know what will happen. Maybe your career path will lead you home, or it could lead you to better things! Just be careful. Good luck to you!!!

  6. I am involved for the first time in my life with a married man. We are old friends that lost contact for many years and just found each other. We never dated but after talking through just emails and text messages, have gotten very attracted to each other. We don’t live in the same town so we don’t see each other. We have met 3 times and the sex is so wonderful. But he is afraid of losing some of the things in his life that are very important to him (kids and job) if he tries to leave. So at this moment I have told him that I can’t do it anymore cause my feelings are too deep and it hurts when I can’t be with him. So we have not had any contact in a little over a week and I miss him so much. It is very hard to find support cause the few people that know tells me this is for the best and they just don’t understand how hard it is. I don’t know if I should keep trying. Sometimes some of the things he does and says makes me think he wants to get caught, but I don’t know if I am just reading something into it that’s not really happening. The last time we were together there were things that could have easily gotten him caught and they were all his idea. Just searching for answers. He is not just a physical thing to me. We talk and kid around all the time and that’s what makes it so good with us.

    • I always thought that if it’s meant to be, it will be. I’m with my guy so much that people think we’re married. The other day, he went to our usual DD for our coffees while I stayed home. I was on the phone with him and the girls at the counter were asking him where I was. They didn’t believe him when he told them that I was on the phone and could hear everything they said. I can’t tell you how many times people have asked us how long we’ve been married (I refrain from saying that I’m divorced, but HE’S been married for a while).

      It’s hard for a married man to up and leave his family. Some women are vindictive and will use the kids as pawns, which is never right, but its done. Maybe on some level he wants to be caught because he feels it would make things easier, but it won’t.

      Since you don’t see him that much, maybe you can take the time that you’re not together to just talk things through. Find out what he is looking for and what he wants from you. Where does he want this to go? It’s always easier to talk about these things when you’re not face to face. Seeing someone you really care about can be very distracting when you’re trying to have a serious conversation.

      Someone not in this situation will never be able to understand, so don’t expect them to. Just know that if they’re friends, they’ll more than likely be there to support you. Good luck!

      • Thank you so much for your blog. This is the first place that I have found that I can actually tell my true feelings without feeling guilty. The thing is he tells me he won’t leave so I have pretty much quit talking to him for a little over a week now. But this is killing me and I told him that so I think he’s not getting in touch with me cause he doesn’t want to hurt me. Cause ever other time we have tried to stop talking, he gets in touch with me after a few days and it starts back. I have missed talking to him so much cause we talked several times a day. I am so tempted to email him and tell him I don’t want to stay away from him but I guess I’m scared that I will end up hurt even worse in the long run.. What should I do? I was reading over some of the first emails that we wrote and that’s when he started telling me he wasn’t happy with his wife. And that he had thought about getting a divorce but didn’t know how to tell his 2 daughters. He says they think he hung the moon and stars and he never wants them to think any other way about him. Maybe he’s hiding behind them but he has told me they are not in love anymore and that was before we got involved in any romantic feelings. So I don’t think he was lying at that point. No need to . He has said that if he was just using me he would push me to come up there to him more, cause I would go see him whenever I could. It’s only a couple of hours away. But like I said, I need to decide if I want to email him and start our same relationship up. (which I enjoyed) But I always end up wanting more. And he can’t give that to me right now.

        • If he’s missing you as much as you’re missing him, he will contact you. In the meantime, go out! Don’t feel guilty about meeting new people and having fun. He lives pretty far from you and it’s probably difficult to see each other. Don’t forget that he’s married, so it’s OK for you to date. I’m not saying to jump into bed with the first man you see, but start going out and having a good time. Men can be our friends and friendships can grow into romantic relationships. Don’t close yourself off to the possibilities.

          As “other women”, we’re going to get hurt. To make that hurt less, we need to fully understand that our men will not leave their families to be with us. Kids are usually the reason. Until we accept that, we can’t be happy with what we have. We need to learn to enjoy the moment when we’re with our men, but we also need to balance that out with lives of our own. After all, are the men dropping everything for us?

  7. I just found your blog and am happy to see someone who is not always bashing the OW. I have been the OW for a year now…as of yest. It is the hardest thing i have ever had to go through. I met my MM at a bar he had on no ring and when asked if he had children said no. There was the connection btwn us. Something I could not control. We kissed our first night and exchanged numbers. Well with the joys of facebook i looked him up and found out he was married. He never called the next day and i was ok with that. But then he did and me being the smart mouth southerner that i am only asked how his wife was doing. We talked that night on the phone for about 2hours before decideing to meet. I knew what i was doing. It was never suppose to be a realtionship. It was two weeks of passion and fun, and then it was to end. He left to go back home. It was a week before I got a call from his wife. I did not answer her questions all i said was i am not the person you need answers from you need to talk to your husband. Then he called me. He told me he had to tell her what happend. he missed me so much, well the affair started again. He lived far way so he would call once a day from work. He was moving soon 2hours away from me. I was informed she and his children would not be moving with him. He lives alone and I am with him as much as I can be. He knows my family and his family knows about me. It is not the right time for me to meet them since he is still only separated not divorced. The waiting is hard. The waiting hurts. I am just glad to see that I am not the only one who has been through situations like this. THank you for your blog!

    • You’re definitely not alone!!! I was surprised how many OW there are out there and all the different stories they tell. I’m glad I can give this place for us to vent and exchange stories. Thanks for reading!

  8. I realize that as the “other woman” you pride yourself on telling “betrayed” wives that if they would take care of their husbands, they wouldn’t be in their situation. The fact is, no one, men or women, deserve to be cheated on, no matter what the situation. The only ones deserving of blame are those that choose to dishonor their vows, and hurt their spouse and family as well as the affair partner who knowingly chooses to participate in hurting them.
    It’s sad that so called “other women” try to justify a relationship based on lies and deception. That fact remains, that if a man truly loves and honors you, he marries you and make you his wife. Other woman need to remember, no one is immune to betrayal.
    Do other woman really believe men who lie and cheat to their wives and families? Wake up. Respect and honor yourselves.

    • Hello, Rae…

      You say that no matter what the situation is, no one should be cheated on. There are times when divorce isn’t an option. Aside from the cost, which isn’t just a cut and dry “OK, here’s $600, Mr. Attorney, let’s go to Court and get me a divorce.”, there are kids who may not be ready to accept their parents splitting up. So…what do you suggest? If a wife refuses to even hug her husband, kiss him goodbye when he leaves for work, or even give him a kind word, should the man resign himself to a loveless, sexless life? What if it’s the husband who refuses to show his wife affection? Isn’t SHE entitled to find love with someone else?

      You see, I’ve said many times that not everything is black and white. I’ll use my relationship as an example. My man’s wife refused ANY of his attempts to make things work. She alienated him and their daughter from his entire family. She never made an effort to get to know them, which means their daughter has cousins she has never met. Is this right? Is this fair?

      It’s so easy to judge others when you don’t know their situation. Obviously, you were cheated on. Did you do all you could to keep your husband? Sometimes, it doesn’t take much. I know that if my man’s wife gave him a hug and a kiss every now and then, he wouldn’t be with me. In the beginning, it wasn’t easy for him to be with me. He didn’t wake up one day and think “Today, I’m going to find someone to f**k.” Even when things started progressing in our relationship, before I was too “involved”, I asked him to make sure there was no chance of him and his wife working things out. Am I “proud” of this? No….”proud” isn’t the word I’d use. I did what I had to do to make sure that his marriage couldn’t be saved. I was prepared to step aside while he worked things out. She wanted things to stay the way they were. So, at 38 years old, was he expected to have an intimate relationship with Ms. Right and Ms. Left for the rest of his life?

      As for believing him….yes…I believe him. Not only because of what HE tells me, but what his family and friends have told me.

      Our relationship has been going on for 10 years now. When he leaves, I go downstairs with him and kiss him good night. We make sure we have a “date night”. We talk on the phone. We send each other little texts. Every now and then, I make him his favorite meal. These are the stupid, little things that his wife either stopped doing or never did for him.

      Yes, there are many shades of grey. For example, you feel the wives are being “betrayed”, but what about when these wives emotionally abandon their husbands? Who is “betrayed” in that case? Isn’t that, in a sense, dishonoring their vows?

      Not all men cheat just to prove they can have sex with multiple women. This may be something you don’t understand, but my man does respect me. As for marriage, I know this can’t happen now. I don’t want it to happen. I don’t need him to marry me to prove that he respects me. I’ve been divorced for a long time. Divorce was the right choice for me. It’s not for him. I didn’t deny my ex-husband visitation with his kids…my man’s wife has told him she would keep his child from him if he ever left her. She doesn’t seem to care that he’s not home a lot, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want him around at all. Who else will do the work around the house? She has to know he has someone else, but that doesn’t mean she wants it rubbed in her face. That would be too hurtful and we won’t do that to her.

      No one is going to change your opinion about the OW. But you really should think before you judge. Thanks for writing.

  9. YOU HOES ARE FUCKING DISGUSTING AS WELL AS THE MEN. PEOPLE LIKE YOU HAVE VERY LITTLE MORALS AND REGARD FOR OTHERS FEELINGS. HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ABOUT THE WIFE? BUT I GUESS SINCE YOU ARE SIDELINE HOES YOU DONT CARE. SURE YOU ARE LIVING YOUR LIFE AND MAY NOT BE DEPENDENT ON THIS MARRIED MAN BUT BOTTOM LINE IS YOU ARE AND WILL ALWAYS BE JUST A PIECE OF ASS. NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE DOES FOR YOU OR SAYS HE LOVES YOU …AT THE END OF THE DAY WHERE IS HE? WHERE DOES HIS REAL RESPONSIBILITIES LIE? YOU ARE ALL DELUSIONAL AS HELL AND I FIND THIS QUITE HUMOROUS. HOW CAN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU CANT FULLY COMMIT TO? THAT’S UNREAL. NO PERSON OR SITUATION SHOULD BE ABLE TO STOP REAL LOVE…SERIOUSLY. THOSE MEN ARE RIGHT WHERE THEY WANT TO BE AND THEY HAVE THEIR WHORES RIGHT WHERE THEY WANT TO BE LOL I HAVE TO ASK, DOES IT BOTHER YOU TO KNOW THAT THEIR WIVES HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT YOU BUT YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT THEM?? HMM THATS SAYING THIS MARRIED MAN OBVIOUSLY CARES ABOUT HIS WIFE’S FEELINGS AND COULDNT GIVE TWO SHITS ABOUT YOURS BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOUR ROLE HOE. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT, IF YOUR “MAN” ACTUALLY LEAVES HIS WIFE BECAUSE HE FALLS FOR YOU…WHICH DOES HAPPEN THEN MORE POWER TO YOU, YOU HAVE GRADUATED…BUT IF HE REMAINS MARRIED…YOU ARE STILL AND ALWAYS WILL BE A SIDELINE HOE, REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU TWIST THINGS TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER…LMAO THIS IS PURE COMEDY

    • I decided to approve the 3 comments from “AREALWOMAN” mainly because I don’t want people to think that I pick and choose only the most positive comments to put on my site.

      Now, a few observations: I have learned from being on the internet for years (starting in AOL chat rooms), that it is usually the most ignorant who tend to type in all CAPS. They have something to say, yet they aren’t intelligent enough, or sure enough in their own words to believe they will be read unless they are SCREAMED out to the world.

      Another observation is in the excessive use of the word “HOE”. Really? We’re gardening tools? I hate gardening. I believe the word you were looking for is “HO”. Regardless….how many times do you think you could use one word, no matter what it is, before your message gets put on the back burner and the single, over-used word, becomes comical?

      It’s also obvious that you haven’t read all of my posts. I, too, have been divorced for many years and have raised two happy, decently adjusted kids. The difference between my divorce situation and other situations is that I have never threatened my ex by telling him he would never see his kids if he left me. I gave very liberal visitation. Some women use the kids as pawns, so, the dads stay in an unhappy marriage to be with their kids. Is this ideal for the kids? Not at all. But people do what they feel they have to do.

      As for knowing all about his wife…I don’t know much about her. Only the little that he’s told me during a huge discussion when I found out he was married about whether or not we should continue with our relationship and things I’ve been told (without asking) by others. Whether or not she knows about me doesn’t matter. Her actions tell me that she doesn’t care.

      One last thing…no one is “glorifying” an affair. Life took some twists and turns and we found ourselves in love with married men and they found themselves in love with us. I don’t think there are any of us that feel the relationships are ideal, but, for the most part, they are happy relationships. The reasons for having an affair are many. Unless you know the full story, you have no right to judge.

  10. AND FOR THE IDIOTS WHO JUSTIFY CHEATING BECAUSE OF WOMEN NOT TAKING CARE OF THEIR MEN STFU! ITS CALLED DIVORCE OR HELL JUST SEPARATE. IF YOUR MARRAIGE ISNT WORKING THEN BE A MAN AND DO THE RIGHT THING…DONT BITCH OUT AND CHEAT BUT STILL COME HOME TO YOUR WIFE LIKE EVERYTHING IS FINE. YES IM MARRIED TOO AND I TAKE CARE OF MY HUSBAND PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. WE HAVE A CHILD TOO SO I UNDERSTAND PPL WANTING TO STAY TOGETHER FOR THE KIDS BUT WHY SUBJECT YOUR KIDS TO AN UNHAPPY ENVIRONMENT?ITS NOT THE RIGHT THING TO DO, ITS SELFISH. MOVE ON. YOU CAN STILL RAISE HAPPY KIDS BEING DIVORCED…MY PARENTS DID IT

  11. PS LOL

    IM SORRY FOR CALLING YOU HOES, THAT’S NOT ON MY CHARACTER. I DON’T AGREE WITH YOUR LIFESTYLE BUT I SHOULDN’T DISRESPECT YOU GUYS. ITS JUST SEEMS WRONG TO GLORIFY THIS

    • Just send a comment here. If you want to keep it private, just let me know and I won’t approve it for all to see. Thanks!

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